Social Contracts, Co-Dependency and …Closed Loops of Limitation

 There are so many readily available ways to not be our authentic selves. They come easy, or so we think, since they’re so rampant in our shallow societal system. But the price is seriously self imposed and a crippling limitation. Social engineering is a massive subject. That humanity has been dumbed down is a huge understatement. We’ve been severely handicapped in ways we can hardly discern, hence their disastrous grip and closed self reinforcing loops have such sway. By design we cannot see what is truly going on.

The mind plays tricks – seriously distracting ones. The mind breeds such a cloud of all knowing self importance we tend to bend it to our every whim.   Beware the grandiosity of your thoughts.

Distraction Mechanisms – Social Contracts

What accords we make with others in order to be “friends” or tolerate each other. Heavy duty stuff, and not easy to own up to. Again the root to everything is the willingness to let go of anything and everything we’re attached to.    We all do it all the time in order to “get along”. It dissipates as we become our authentic selves. That’s the good news. But disentangling from contracts can be a real tough ride, and not an easy thing to handle with grace.  But it has to be done…

Co-Dependency, The Inner Child, and Shadow Work
 All of us are subject to triggers that activate extremely dangerous reactions that completely cloud our minds and hearts. Our interactions are affected by unresolved past issues, only because we haven’t explored and identified the truth of our upbringing.

Co-dependency born of abandonment begins at birth. It’s passed on by unconscious parents – and all parents are complicit, as were their parents. We spend the rest of our lives looking for acceptance and affirmation as a result, as well as many other entangled issues.

None of us were acknowledged to be the spiritual creatures we have become. The portal soon closed and we were born into a world of abuse and engineered survival challenges of every sort. We searched for true love and understanding from the start, but it was denied.  And we were left confused, desperate, and hungry for true love and spiritual community.  Again, a massive subject that deserves real investigation and application. It’s way too much to fully explain here. You can liken these deeper issues to impacted spiritual teeth. They are painful, often infected, and need surgery. If you dive into this subject and are willing to expose yourself fully and the digging it entails, the healing can begin. 

Face It Head On
 Facing these issues straight on is not all that pleasant, yet it is extremely liberating and empowering, and the quickest way through them. There is no one cookie-cutter method for everyone to follow in dealing with such issues. As you struggle of free yourself from their entanglement, it will feel as though you are taking one step forward and two steps backward. But it’s important to understand that your “feelings” are very seldom a true gage of real progress. Charting your progress through journaling is one way of monitoring your progress. During the times when you “feel” overwhelmed and isolated seek out those who can give you wise counsel and support.

Stay the course, putting one proverbial foot after another, and at some point the fog of isolated feelings and the feelings of the need to re-attach yourself to the toxic person that caused you so much emotional and physical pain will soon begin to dissipate.

Going forward use lessons learned and this experience as a foundation to build a “new you.” 

by ZG / Sherman Flakes, Sept. 15, 2017


  

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TO “FORGIVE”….The Quality of True Strength

“When we focus on some horrific past event, we only bring forth the energy associated with what created it, allowing it to continue its cycle and drain our power.
When we see the event for what it is, and its purpose in the grand scheme of this game, then and only then will we move past it. Stop living in fear… stop being a victim and start regaining your power.”

 

The healing process begins when we forgive and let go.

This is a characteristic of true strength.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

– Gandhi

When we forgive, we expand and live through the light that we are. This a universal law and applies to ANY event which causes us to be attached to fear. When we focus and relive fearful events, we contract and remain attached to the energy that caused the event in the first place.

That is why George Santayana‘s quote,

“those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it,” (or variations of this quote) are NOT beneficial to the spiritual advancement of humanity.”

If we constantly recreate the energy and vibrations from the past which we consider to be negative, painful, stressful, hurtful, etc, we maintain that vibration as a collective and this is what we will attract from our world and each other. It is impossible for it to be any other way.

A more progressive approach would be to ask such questions of ourselves,

“Why am I attached to this emotion?” or “why do I continue to recreate this attachment to this event?”

By integrating the why and releasing it from ego, we release the attachment.
Many influential figures and media personalities who rely on attracting an audience who thrives on highly controversial topics or “gloom and doom” news, must constantly refer to negative historical events to maintain the vibration which attracted their audience in the first place. This keeps their audience coming back for more and the vicious cycle continues.

Those who are at the top of mass media empires around the globe are well aware of how fear incites lower vibrations. They do an excellent job of transmitting this emotion and encouraging the masses to blindly follow their ego without checking in with their heart.

This ultimately causes a perpetual state of more fear… a state of constant weakness. This also attracts additional fearful events of equal or greater magnitude and within the same vibration. The responsibility lies within each individual to change it and stop the spread of this energy.

The most powerful and positive effect we can have on humanity is to transition this fear into love. Realize why we are attached to fear and know its purpose.  The most horrific things that happen or that we can imagine do have a divine place in our learning and growth, as hard as that may be to accept from a position of ego.

You cannot change them, but you can grow from them. In many instances, it can happen instantly and need not take weeks or months. If we release the attachment, we will no longer attract it. We will immediately create and manifest what the heart desires only if the fear is not repulsing it.

We need to look within and ask ourselves,

“Why are we continuously defining ourselves by something that we hate instead of what we love?”

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POWERFUL PEOPLE….Think Differently About Their Thoughts

Being in power does, in a very real sense, go to people’s heads…Psychologists have found that when people are made to feel powerful, they believe more in the things they’re thinking. 

This leads to a bunch of wacky, seemingly contradictory behaviors, as Ohio State Ph.D. candidate Geoff Durso explained to Science of Us in an email:

Feeling more powerful may make you kinder and more assertive, yet also more dishonest (The Ergonomics of Dishonesty).

This is explained by the “self-validation theory of judgment,” he says, which basically means that when you feel powerful, your thoughts get magnified. 

They feel more right compared to if you felt powerless.

“So, when placed in a situation where one is primed to think aggressively (e.g., a competition), greater feelings of power should translate into more aggressive, competitive behavior (thus seeming to lend credibility to the idea that ‘power corrupts’),” Durso explained. 

“But when placed in a situation where someone has the goal to act generously (e.g., when considering a charitable donation), the self-validation perspective predicts that greater feelings of power should now translate into more helpful, pro-social behavior.”

And this is where things get even weirder:

If powerful people don’t know what to do, they really don’t know what to do.

For a study (From Power to Inaction – Ambivalence Gives Pause to the Powerful) published this month in Psychological Science, Durso and his colleagues recruited 129 and 197 college students for two separate experiments. 

Participants were given different descriptions of an employee named Bob, some with all positive attributes (like that Bob beat his earnings goals), some with all negative (e.g., Bob stole his colleague’s mug from the kitchen), and some with an even split.

Then, the participants were given a writing task where they had to recall an experience in their lives that made them feel powerful or powerless, framing their decision.

They were also asked how conflicted they felt about Bob’s future, and in one study, they were asked to decide whether to fire or promote Bob with the click of a mouse. Of the participants who were given ambivalent information about his behavior, the powerful took 16 percent longer to make a decision than the less powerful. Just as power made people kinder or more dishonest when they were primed for it in the other experiments, it also made them think longer about conflicting information.  It’s a finding that is easy to spot corollaries for out in the wild.

In an interview with U.S. News in 2009, Obama said that one of the difficulties of his job was that if a problem were to have a clear solution, it wouldn’t land on his desk; the buck wouldn’t stop there. When asked about difficult economic decisions, he said that there’s always going to be probabilities involved.

“You’re never 100 percent certain that the course of action you’re choosing is going to work,” he said.

“What you can have confidence in is that the probability of it working is higher than the other options available to you. But that still leaves some uncertainty, which I think can be stressful, and that’s part of the reason why it’s so important to be willing to constantly re-evaluate decisions based on new information.”

Same with George W. Bush, as the research team notes in their press release:

Though he described himself as “the decider,” the president said that he would not be rushed into making a decision about whether to add or withdraw forces from Iraq, and was, despite his decider-ness, given to delays.

It’s all evidence that the more powerful you feel, the higher the stakes are – even in your head…

by Drake Baer

WHY HUMBLE PEOPLE …MAKE BETTER DECISIONS


 

New research says

they’re better at judging information

than know-it-alls.


Have you ever noticed how we say that beliefs are something you “hold”? 
According to new research (Cognitive and Interpersonal Features of Intellectual Humility) out of Duke University, the grip you keep on your ideas shapes the way you approach the world. How tightly (or not) you cling to your own opinions is called “intellectual humility” (IH), and it could have a big effect on the decisions you make.

People high in IH are less committed to being right about everything and care more about what new information is out in the world, while people low in IH want to believe what they already think. 

If you agree with the statement,

“I question my own opinions, positions, and viewpoints because they could be wrong”  –  used in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin study  –  then you may score highly on IH.

Call it informational sensitivity:

“People differ to the degree that they have antennae on in regard to evidence quality,” lead author Mark Leary, professor of psychology and neuroscience, tell us.

The ramifications are broad, Mark Leary says, since needing to be right all the time and ignoring evidence that conflicts with your opinion can create all sorts of problems, whether in relationships or business or politics.  

Here’s one politically relevant example from the paper:

Participants read an anecdote about a politician changing his mind after he learned more an issue, and those low in IH were more likely to say that he was flip-flopping than (wisely) re-evaluating his opinion based on new evidence.

To Leary, the results speak poorly of the American ideal of “sticking to your guns,” since that’s the opposite of the open- and eager-mindedness that IH characterizes. 

Self-worth and identity issues might be in the mix, too.

“You almost get the sense that intellectually humble people keep their ego out of their intellectual decisions,” Leary says.

With IH, it’s less about being right than seeing what’s right.

Troublingly, other research  indicates that powerful people take their thoughts more seriously, suggesting that IH might go down the higher you climb in social structures.  IH may arise from other, more fundamental factors of personality, too. 

In one experiment, Leary found that people high in IH also had high openness to experience, a core personality trait measuring curiosity, and need for cognition, or how much you enjoy thinking. Leary reasons that IH arises from those drives working together, since desiring new ideas and chewing them over has a way of getting you accustomed to changing your mind.

As indicated in another experiment, IH also depends on your ability spot facts. To assess this, the researchers recruited 400 people online for a critical thinking task evaluating the merits of flossing. After reporting how regularly they flossed, participants read one of two essays advocating the practice  –  one relied on strong, scientific arguments citing dental experts, the other on weak, anecdotal arguments from ordinary people. 

The results:

People high in IH rated the strong argument much more highly, and more hopefully for dental (and social!) progress, the low frequency flossers were indeed more likely to change their minds after reading the stronger essay  –  so long as they were high in IH.

by Drake Baer

TAKING RESPONSIBILIY….THE POWER TO CHANGE

We Create Our Present Experience by Taking Responsibility

Taking responsibility can be very empowering.
The outer world materializes from within us. At break of day, before we rise from bed, we mentally consider the things we will be doing for the day, and sometimes ahead, to the next week or year, or even our lifetime. We consciously guide and steer our ideas.

Unknowing or knowingly, we connect with others, in this mental environment, planning our destinies within the framework of possibilities and limitations of a group mind. If the group mindset does not suit our needs, we will seek out other mindsets that do, this happens under the surface, perhaps with little conscious knowledge. The nature of our present experience came to be in this way, and our current thoughts and actions will drive our future.  

No One to Blame but Ourselves
If we are not happy with life as it is, it is because our past actions and thoughts were not adequate.

A restless or untamed mind will bring like results that will manifest themselves in a future present. Every experience we have is a result of some past action…reaping what we have sown. This is referred to in the bible as the “principle of sowing and reaping.” 

We cannot blame others for things turning out not to our liking. Doing so places all power in others and the external world. Our power lies within; it is not useful to blame others. When others wrong us, or treat us in a way we deem wrong, we should not blame them even when we are certain they are wrong.   There is just one person in the world who we have definite influence over, and it’s yourself.

We Can Change Ourselves – We Cannot Change Others
 By accepting our every problem as of our making, we put ourselves in the driver’s seat. We are not a victim of events we cannot control. If, for example, a driver cuts us off and takes a parking space we were about to take; don’t complain, but realize that sometimes these things happen. Don’t allow your frustrations affect others around you.

When we are in a hurry or feel aggressive, others about us may take on the same feelings and react in a way that angers us.  When we feel peaceful and calm, the same positive feeling will spread, our outer world reflecting our inner calm. If a driver cuts in front of us and takes our parking space, for example, we shouldn’t become angry, but rather feel compassion and patience. We should be aware that such a person has many lessons to learn.

When we politely allow him the parking space that should be ours, he’ll likely sense some shame, and perhaps realize he is wrong. And if taking that valuable parking spot is so critical and urgent to him, then we’ll have done a deed that is the better for him and for us. Loss of the parking spot is of insignificant consequence. We would do better by using the event for practicing mindfulness.  

Taking Responsibility Increases Personal Power

Incrementally, such actions increase our personal power and energy, and we will more perfectly manage and change our actions.
Given time, with patience and endurance, our own personal good examples will affect others cumulatively. By taking responsibility, our world will improve.

by Arthur Telling

Letting Go…A Simple Guide


 Letting go – it seems to be one of those phrases that gets used a lot, especially in spiritual/meditation circles.  

But it seems to have so many different meanings:

  • people shout “let it go!” in an attempt to end an uncomfortable confrontation

  • ‘letting go of negative energy’ in meditation

  • ‘letting go’ of possessions

  • many of us know about the ‘Frozen’ movie in which ‘letting go’ is used to describe pent-up expression


Letting go is not the same as denial

 Let’s start by talking about what ‘letting go’ is not.

‘Letting go’ is not denial (that’s a river in Egypt, right…?). This may seem the obvious to many people, but the knowing it and applying it in everyday life can be subtly different.

Take the example of an uncomfortable confrontation with a loved one. When one party is uncomfortable at being challenged or talking about a particular subject, “just let it go!” is often exclaimed. But letting go cannot be simply not talking about something. The feelings are still there, unexpressed.  

Letting go is not the same as ‘release’ 
‘Letting go’ is not the same as ‘releasing’. This is an even subtler difference than with denial. Let’s imagine that we are feeling angry. Perhaps we also realize that projecting that anger onto others is not the best way to express it, so we go into our bedroom and beat, or scream into, our pillow, or just cry until we feel ‘released’. 

Of course this can feel very much like ‘letting go’. We may feel liberated afterward, as if the subject that caused the anger is no longer important. But all that we have done is release the feelings without getting to the root cause of why they are there – in essence, you will still be carrying round the cause and effect of the situation.  This is usually due to an attachment to a particular outcome. Of course when life doesn’t fulfill this outcome then negative emotion is the product. The attachment comes from a fixed view of the world and/or ourselves. 

Letting go is a natural process 
So, finally,

  • What is ‘letting go’?  

  • Or more to the point, when might ‘letting go’ happen?

You see ‘letting go’ is not simply something that you do! It’s not something you can do. ‘Letting go’ happens naturally when a person realizes that the particular behavior/object/person/attachment no longer serves their highest good.

This realization occurs naturally through awareness and inquiry.   

The process may go something like this:

  1. A person ignores their feelings (denial) or expresses them without thinking about why the feelings are there (release), until they are so sick of having those feelings over and over.

  2. The person will ‘let go’ one of two ways:

    1. either they create an ‘ego bubble’, that is a fixed, safe identity that they can hide inside and repress the other feelings

    2. or they ask themselves why a behavior is arising

  3. There is a process of enquiry and even experimentation when the feelings arise again. The route cause is identified as being within themselves and not coming from the outside world (which is only a trigger). The person realizes that this behavior doesn’t serve them.

  4. The person releases the pent-up emotion for the last time (often the most powerful). It is important then, to watch for the behavior arising again as we will still have mental conditioning from neural pathways in the brain.

  5. Finally, it is important to realize that whatever you were letting go of is also part of your truth, all be it expressed in a distorted way, so a person may look for the aligned expression of that truth – this could be as simple as asking a well-placed question or finding the feeling of wholeness in something that doesn’t harm you or anyone else. 

  ‘Frozen’ – Movie Example 

Disney’s ‘Frozen is a great example to illustrate my point.   To begin with the Princess Elsa has an ability that can be both harmful and beautifully creative, but she can’t control it when her emotions are strong. 

So she goes into denial, blocking herself off from the world in an effort to suppress her ability. Then through a series of events her ability is revealed to the world. It is no longer possible to deny, but she doesn’t want to hurt anyone, so she flees to the mountains.

Then comes everyone’s favorite part, right? She ‘lets it go‘ releasing her pent-up emotions and abilities in the most beautiful way and she feels great, but not whole:

She is still isolated from the world and her loved ones.  The film progresses and Elsa realizes that her strong fear of hurting people with her powers has a root in the feeling of love. She realizes that this is her higher truth. She naturally and effortlessly lets go of her fear and is able to live in the world once more through expressing her gifts in an aligned way.

 So, letting go, in a sense, is really not a ‘doing’ so much as something that just happens naturally through allowing the feelings to be there until they no longer serve a purpose for you…it goes without saying that the purpose served is never destructive in nature.

by Richard West  

Doctors – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

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Before we talk about the good doctors and the excellent ones that pave highways for future doctors to follow, we have to talk about the bad and even ugly doctors who are hurting and killing their patients. So many people die at the hands of modern medicine that it is one of the leading causes of death in the United States.

Few people have a clear idea of how truly disillusioned many doctors are with a system and how many patients swear they will never again go to a doctor or a hospital. Back in 2012 in England health secretary Jeremy Hunt said a survey 300 health bodies had identified 0.7 per cent of doctors – about 1,000 out of 175,000 practitioners about whom there were “serious concerns.”

In doctored: The Disillusionment of an American Physician, Dr. Sandeep Jauhar—a cardiologist tells us that physicians see themselves not as the “pillars of any community” but as “technicians on an assembly line,” or “pawns in a money-making game for hospital administrators.” According to a 2012 survey, nearly eight out of 10 physicians are “somewhat pessimistic or very pessimistic about the future of the medical profession.” In 1973, 85 percent of physicians said they had no doubts about their career choice. In 2008, only 6 percent “described their morale as positive,” Jauhar reports. Doctors today are more likely to kill themselves than are members of any other professional group and now we know why.

A New Medicine has to arise to replace a great part of what is now known as modern western medicine or do we think that medical and pharmaceutical terrorism is going to be with us for the duration of the human race. Few doctors get on the horn about this terrible ignorance/arrogance that exists in medicine today so it is no surprise that many doctors are going down with their sinking industrial medical complex.

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Some doctors, before they kill themselves are busy killing others like this doctor who was charged with second-degree murder in the death of five patients, some of whom died just days after receiving large prescriptions from the doctor. She was arrested and released from Oklahoma County Jail on $50,000 bail. The doctor’s arrest is part of a new and growing offensive in America’s battle against the abusive use of opioids, which kill an average of 91 people a day,

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Doctors are exceptional examples of the human race in both suicide as well as a mindset that cuts them off emotionally from the patients they treat. It is obviously not all their fault. It is the system and our collective attitudes and the terrorism of the pharmaceutical companies that they are trained to represent.

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It all starts in medical school where doctors’ capacity for empathy is crushed. Studies show that their empathy plunges in the third year of medical school; that is exactly when initially eager and idealistic students start-seeing patients on rotation. The problem, Danielle Ofri writes, is not some elemental Hobbesian lack of sympathy; students (like the doctors they will become) are overworked and overtired, and they realize that there is too much work to be done in too little time. And because the medical-education system largely ignores the emotional side of health care, doctors end up distancing themselves unthinkingly from what they are seeing.

Doctors' bad handwriting kills more than 7,000 people in the US annually!

Why is it so difficult for so many doctors and patients to communicate with each other? Few people including doctors are good listeners even though the help we seek to bestow on others is very dependent on the quality of our listening. How can we help another if we have not listened to them first? The deeper we listen the deeper our understanding of a patient’s becomes. Unfortunately, arrogant people do not listen.

Doctors are often aloof, off-hand, sexist and unpleasant. Even worse is their closed minds that does not allow them to learn things that will help their patients. So many new things are coming out in medicine leaving the rank and file doctors further and further behind.

Of course, there are good doctors, who are not blinded by their basic training. Medical school and internship are the equivalent of boot camp for the military. You literally get the shit kicked into you, which includes the tendency to obedience. Good doctors are such a pleasure to be around because not only do they truly care but they are truly helpful. Great doctors today have to have courage because there are dark forces working in and around the medical profession. It is sad but true that some doctors who make too much trouble are killed and we have heard too much of that in recent years.

New Medicine

I have been calling my new medical approach Natural Allopathic Medicine but perhaps eventually I should change the name. The name ‘New Medicine’ has already taken up by a narrow, but deep approach to cancer so we need to think of something creative. The real point is that drastic changes on fundamental levels has to happen for medicine to regain integrity. The very concept of medicine has been contaminated, yet there are doctors who fight on for what is good and right.

We have many new answers and none of them are dangerous. We have old answers as well but ones that have been hidden by pharmaceutical companies, medical organizations and medical schools. The reason I called my approach Natural Allopathic Medicine is because I found that the most incredible medicines are found in intensive care wards and excellent emergency rooms. Doctors are surprised that the best medicines are not pharmaceutical in nature but are concentrated nutritional medicines like magnesium, iodine, sodium bicarbonate and selenium.

Now we are adding new items to the intensive care medicine list like hydrogen water and gas, CO2 so patients can get more oxygen, oxygen itself in concentrate form, and very soon we will be healing with sound broadcast through our cell phones. Digital age medicine is getting interesting offering us diagnostics and treatment modalities of our dreams.

The point is that openness is necessary in medicine. So necessary that the closed nature of medicine has made it into the biggest terrorist organization in the world. Something has to break the back of modern medicine and it will probably be the coming financial and economic collapse, which is exactly what is needed to clean out the Aegean Stables of pharmaceutical medicine. Otherwise, the medical industrial complex will keep on killing people in record numbers.

by Dr. Mark Sircus, Ac., OMD