There are so many readily available ways to not be our authentic selves. They come easy, or so we think, since they’re so rampant in our shallow societal system. But the price is seriously self imposed and a crippling limitation. Social engineering is a massive subject. That humanity has been dumbed down is a huge understatement. We’ve been severely handicapped in ways we can hardly discern, hence their disastrous grip and closed self reinforcing loops have such sway. By design we cannot see what is truly going on.
The mind plays tricks – seriously distracting ones. The mind breeds such a cloud of all knowing self importance we tend to bend it to our every whim. Beware the grandiosity of your thoughts.
Distraction Mechanisms – Social Contracts
What accords we make with others in order to be “friends” or tolerate each other. Heavy duty stuff, and not easy to own up to. Again the root to everything is the willingness to let go of anything and everything we’re attached to. We all do it all the time in order to “get along”. It dissipates as we become our authentic selves. That’s the good news. But disentangling from contracts can be a real tough ride, and not an easy thing to handle with grace. But it has to be done…
Co-Dependency, The Inner Child, and Shadow Work
All of us are subject to triggers that activate extremely dangerous reactions that completely cloud our minds and hearts. Our interactions are affected by unresolved past issues, only because we haven’t explored and identified the truth of our upbringing.
Co-dependency born of abandonment begins at birth. It’s passed on by unconscious parents – and all parents are complicit, as were their parents. We spend the rest of our lives looking for acceptance and affirmation as a result, as well as many other entangled issues.
None of us were acknowledged to be the spiritual creatures we have become. The portal soon closed and we were born into a world of abuse and engineered survival challenges of every sort. We searched for true love and understanding from the start, but it was denied. And we were left confused, desperate, and hungry for true love and spiritual community. Again, a massive subject that deserves real investigation and application. It’s way too much to fully explain here. You can liken these deeper issues to impacted spiritual teeth. They are painful, often infected, and need surgery. If you dive into this subject and are willing to expose yourself fully and the digging it entails, the healing can begin.
Face It Head On
Facing these issues straight on is not all that pleasant, yet it is extremely liberating and empowering, and the quickest way through them. There is no one cookie-cutter method for everyone to follow in dealing with such issues. As you struggle of free yourself from their entanglement, it will feel as though you are taking one step forward and two steps backward. But it’s important to understand that your “feelings” are very seldom a true gage of real progress. Charting your progress through journaling is one way of monitoring your progress. During the times when you “feel” overwhelmed and isolated seek out those who can give you wise counsel and support.
Stay the course, putting one proverbial foot after another, and at some point the fog of isolated feelings and the feelings of the need to re-attach yourself to the toxic person that caused you so much emotional and physical pain will soon begin to dissipate.
Going forward use lessons learned and this experience as a foundation to build a “new you.”
by ZG / Sherman Flakes, Sept. 15, 2017